Dr Chee Yew Wen pointed out that self-esteem is the way how an individual perceives their own value and worthiness.
- Do you feel good about yourself?
- Do you feel proud of yourself?
While someone with a higher self-esteem will reply ‘yes’, those who replied ‘no’ usually has a lower self-esteem. Self-esteem is a person’s belief and it is important to maintain high self-esteem because it can change the attitude and mindset you have towards your life. Self-esteem is something that you build up over your years of growing up and it can definitely be worked on if you are looking for ways to improve your low self-esteem.
High Self-Esteem Individuals
People with high self-esteem usually have a positive mindset towards life and feels good about their surroundings and environment. They are comfortable in their own skin because they take care of themselves and listen to their needs and wants closely. They do not blame themselves if they have made a mistake in life but instead, they take it as a lesson learnt and do not make the same mistake again.
Life becomes simpler for them as they do not engage in emotional rollercoaster as compared to people with lower self-esteem which is often associated with having a negative outlook in life. People with high self-esteem do not seek constant validation from people around them because they are confident of themselves and therefore do not feel the need to gain acceptance from the people surrounding them. Dr Chee shares some methods you can use to improve your low self-esteem.
Controlling The Inner Self
Learn how to control your inner critic that is trying to put you down. Everyone has an inner voice which we can control to think positively instead of negatively. They can completely make an impact in your life if you decided to make this change. People with low self-esteem usually expect the worst out of a situation example after a job interview, their inner critic starts to take over their mind with thoughts like ‘I will never get the job’ or ‘I performed so badly during the interview as usual’.
Say No to Your Inner Thoughts
You can actually put a stop to them by controlling your thoughts and tell yourself ‘No’ if you know that you are going to think negatively. Replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts like ‘I did great for my job interview and I will hear back from them soon.’ is a great encouragement and make you feel better about the situation instead of putting the blame on yourself.
Remind Yourself Constantly
The next step is to constantly remind yourself why do you want to make this change and how will it improve your life if your self-esteem improved. It is a powerful way to keep yourself motivated during this period as changes take time and when you feel like you are giving up, take a look at the list again and remind yourself why you decided to embark on this change and journey. It can be because you want to change your lifestyle so you can have a healthy body or you decided you want to save aside more money to go on a holiday with your loved ones. Stick the list where you can see it like your refrigerator or working desk so you can be reminded of it every now and then.
Find a Hobby and Channel Your Energy
Focusing all your energy onto something you enjoy doing instead of what you don’t is important. Find a hobby be it dancing, cooking or swimming and do it regularly because you will feel a sense of accomplishment after completing a task you enjoy which can boost your self-esteem and confidence level. If you focus on doing things that you do not particularly enjoy, it will feel forceful and you will find it a chore to complete them.